Theos-Talk Archives (October 2002 Message tt00058)

In a message dated 10/08/02 9:20:26 PM, micforster@yahoo.com writes:

>--- leonmaurer@aol.com wrote:
>> there is no time to think of or remember the 
>> past while one is acting with an open and 
>> receptive mind in the present. In doing so, one
>> accepts, gives forgiveness for (and forgets) all 
>> wrong thoughts and acts of self and others that
>> has led up to the present. 
>
>what do you do when you've forgotten about the past
>and have forgiven but the shelfish wrong-doer insists
>on reliving the situation? In other words, what do you
>do when you have to associate with an absolute %$@#&
>not by choice but by circumstance? (yes I am relating
>to a situation in my life and I don't know what to do
>about it). Mic
>
That advice given pertains only to our own self realization or enlightenment. 
It cannot relate to any others unless they accept it for themselves. As for 
your situation, there's no advice that anyone can give that would help 
without knowing as much about the relationship as you do. There could be a 
number of alternative solutions. And, even then, you would still have to 
decide for yourself which one, you could carry out. As for theosophy having 
any answers or advice, it has nothing to say about dealings with such matters 
of a personal nature. Each one of us can only carry his/her own luggage. 
The karma of another is beyond our ability to know or to change. And the 
only way to change our own karma is to transcend it by forgiveness, and 
detaching ourselves from all worldly concerns -- other than our duty to 
ourselves, as well as to others -- by guiding them toward finding their own 
selves by themselves. Admittedly, that's not easy. But, giving up the past 
doesn't mean that the past has given us up. So we still have to face those in 
the present who have wronged us in the past. If such wrongs still persist, 
then the resultant karma resolves on the one who continues it... And the 
other can just try to stay out of the way and take care of his/her own 
business. Once one is truly awakened to self realization, what others say or 
do to us should be of no further concern.