Theos-Talk Archives (April 2005 Message tt01940)

Dear Murray-

Bless you for your heartfelt message. You have a deep wisdom, one I am just coming 
into after Dionne's passing. Yes, we need to remember the love we shared with our 
mates, and to continue in a way that continues the "through-line", the arc, of that 
love. This is the only path available to me; fading away or sliding into oblivion would 
destroy the richness that we shared. 

I deeply appreciate your sweet words to me, you have brought a smile to my lips...

Love, 

Niki


--- In theos-talk@yahoogroups.com, Murray Stentiford <opt-mas@s...> wrote:
> Dear Niki,
> 
> If you are still on this list, let me add my voice to those who will say 
> they care.
> 
> I nursed my first wife through cancer a good many years ago till her death. 
> But, sorrowful as that time was, I have to say that with the passage of 
> years, there is a harvest of strength and wisdom that comes. Not the 
> power-over-people kind of strength, and not the head-and-book learning kind 
> of wisdom, but something that another grieving person will sense by being 
> near you and gain solace from.
> 
> Blessings on your journey
> 
> Murray
> 
> 
> 
> At 16:34 30/04/2005, you wrote:
> >Message: 13
> > Date: Fri, 29 Apr 2005 16:35:18 -0700
> > From: Jerry Hejka-Ekins <jjhe@c...>
> >Subject: Re: Taking a break
> >
> >Dear Niki,
> >
> >In January of this year, my wife and I stood an all night vigil over my
> >wife's mother. She took her last breath at 7:12 a.m., on the 22nd. We
> >are still mending our hearts too. I just wanted to share this with you
> >so that you will know that there is at least one other person on this
> >list who does understand what you are going through.
> >
> >I apologize for not responding earlier. There was so much junk on this
> >board, that I, for several weeks, had been erasing most of the messages
> >without reading them.
> >
> >Best wishes,
> >Jerry
> >
> >
> >Anika Kinnara Durand wrote:
> >
> > >Dear All-
> > >
> > >After the last contentious batch of posts and having to delete them all, 
> > I'm taking a
> > >break from reading anything from this group for awhile.
> > >
> > >I joined this group to gain more spiritual knowledge, and have 
> > experienced very little
> > >of that. What I have mostly experienced is people slamming my views with 
> > way-too-
> > >long emails that are filled with intellectualisms and not enough heart. 
> > I know there
> > >are brilliant minds here, and for that I am grateful...you know who you are.
> > >
> > >Add the biliousness of Thal (ifn you don't like this a/o won't ever open 
> > your heart,
> > >Terrie, well...), and the contentiousness...
> > >
> > >I'm still mending my heart after the sudden death of my soulmate...
> > >
> > >I need a forum to grow in, where there is not only an intellectual 
> > understanding of "all
> > >that is", but a heart connection that informs that knowledge. I know it 
> > resides here, I
> > >have no doubts there, but I also have witnessed too much that obscures 
> > that...
> > >
> > >...and my heart cannot bear that at this time.
> > >
> > >I have no judgments here, only what I feel. Even those I've had "words" 
> > with I have
> > >love and compassion for. All I desire is that we all get back to the 
> > "Work". There is
> > >much to be done and we all need to remember why we are here.
> > >
> > >Blessings to you all.
> > >
> > >Niki Durand
> > >